Furfetish ends by now ...

[mr_bigfuzzy]

I want to share a part of my life with you to get an answer:

I have had a fur fetish since I was 16 years old. I have integrated this into my life and loved several women who accepted it (some not). We played in furs and had fun. I was married once, but the fetish was still strong and part of the partnership.

I am now 54 years old and have met a new woman and the fur fetish seems to be ending. I have never been so in love with a woman and it is incredible how well we fit together mentally and otherwise.

To be clear - I still have sexual interest, but it is about her, fur is no longer involved.

First of all, I naturally came to a date in my fur jacket and we also had fun in my real fur blankets. During one of the declarations of love, she said (on her own) that she loved my fur coat.

But it doesn't seem to be important to me anymore. When I have sexual feelings or thoughts, it is about her and there is no longer any fur involved. I thought that fur would stay in my life until the end.

I looked in the literature and found out that this can happen. I am amazed and delighted because the fetish has sometimes made life complicated. It is not always appropriate to wear fur here and many women are vegan, extreme animal lovers...

I wonder if anyone else has had this experience and if the fetish comes back after the initial phase of loving someone? Or am I "lucky" and free?

 

[Prowl]

Whatever ends up happening, it's amazing that you found love! You are very lucky 

[shyfurwriter]

1 hour ago, mr_bigfuzzy said:

I have never been so in love with a woman and it is incredible how well we fit together mentally and otherwise.

I am so very happy for you!!!!!!! As for the Fetish and/ or love of fur , don't give it a thought, interest change. Just go with it ! Again, VERY HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!

[joel.leon]

It's not like it requires a final decision 🙂 enjoy it solo or with your partner when it feels good. It's all a spectrum and changes with time.

[FullLengthFox]

Great to hear that you are happy! My thoughts: 

- Sexual interests may change and it is very well possible that your fetish returns one day. From experience I can say it is even more enjoyable when combined with a happy couple's life. 

- A fetish should not be limiting in any way, it is enriching so quite the opposite. But again: speaking from personal perspective, I know that the "old" definition of a fetish is a "must-need", but I don't believe this is still the case. 

[CoyoteFox]

My fur fetish subsided from age 22-33...

Maybe I was supressing it, but it didn't have the same effect on me... I got the same butterflies, but I wasn't actively engaged in acquiring and appreciating fur... 

It came back in the past six years and it was different from before... It's a more complementary force now in my life... I'm more comfortable with it and more comfortable with who I am as a person... 

I was lost in self-image, and worried that a fur fetish would be seen a certain way and take away from the persona I was trying to broadcast to the world... 

I'm at peace with my mind now (or at least winning the battle) and finding self-worth through honestly embracing the real things that complete me and make me whole... 

My love of fur now fits... But it's completely natural that it comes and goes... As it should!

Watch out for when it comes back though... Might be expensive and 10x better! 🙂

[LeComte]

Most important: Your girlfriend and you are happy. With or without a fetish.

Anyway I somewhat accepted my fetish more and more and finally admitted that it's a part of me. It may be more or less intense, but I now enjoy it. Of course it is limiting sometimes, but on the other hand I get intense pleasure out of it. Yet I fully understand you, it's great to not judge every potential partner through the fur lens.

[ChicagoFurFan]

On 2/9/2025 at 12:06 PM, mr_bigfuzzy said:

I want to share a part of my life with you to get an answer:

I have had a fur fetish since I was 16 years old. I have integrated this into my life and loved several women who accepted it (some not). We played in furs and had fun. I was married once, but the fetish was still strong and part of the partnership.

I am now 54 years old and have met a new woman and the fur fetish seems to be ending. I have never been so in love with a woman and it is incredible how well we fit together mentally and otherwise.

To be clear - I still have sexual interest, but it is about her, fur is no longer involved.

First of all, I naturally came to a date in my fur jacket and we also had fun in my real fur blankets. During one of the declarations of love, she said (on her own) that she loved my fur coat.

But it doesn't seem to be important to me anymore. When I have sexual feelings or thoughts, it is about her and there is no longer any fur involved. I thought that fur would stay in my life until the end.

I looked in the literature and found out that this can happen. I am amazed and delighted because the fetish has sometimes made life complicated. It is not always appropriate to wear fur here and many women are vegan, extreme animal lovers...

I wonder if anyone else has had this experience and if the fetish comes back after the initial phase of loving someone? Or am I "lucky" and free?

 

It sounds like you’ve found true love — the type that transcends the lustful and short term gratification-esque nature of fetishism. I’m sure you’ll still enjoy fur, I mean, fetish or not, it’s sexy and a universal sign of luxury, but now you’ve found something far more permanent and joyful. 

[syfr]

Thanks for sharing your story about changing and evolving. An interesting perspective. We are unique individuals. 

It is fun to indulge in your fetish for sure, but I think a lot can be said about practicing moderation and not becoming overly obsessed, as it can sometimes negatively impact one's life. 

[WinnipegFur]

Congrats on finding someone you can really love and be comfortable with... 
Fur or no fur, its important you are happy!

 

[FoxFurStory_35]

Very interesting thread!  It’s amazing here and I’m getting ready for work. I’ll respond later. 

[FoxFurStory_35]

I find some of this very relatable.  My fur fetish was apparent since I was a child (seeing Vanna White wearing a fur coat in Wheel of Fortune). Thick long hair furs was what appealed to me (short haired like minks don’t have the same effect) It was so rare to see furs I had to get lucky with the odd sighting, rare commercial or magazine ad.  Since the internet, the access to fur photos has exploded.  I have many great fur images saved through the years.   Though I find it takes more fur to really make me react now(overwhelmed in fur). So I suppose I have gotten used to some looks of fur and they don’t have the same arousing effect as before.  

 

Now onto a loving relationship.  As a long time married man, I know how when you love someone, it’s natural to put their needs ahead of your own.  The ups and down of life brings you closer together through years of love, trust and support.  It can also be challenging to keep love making fresh by coming up with new material in the repertoire.  I have experienced that my fur fetish has diminished somewhat, but for me it’s still there.  I try to give furs the occasional break.  However when I bought my wife her hooded silver fox fur coat, she looks so incredibly beautiful she is like a fantasy come to life for me so that has re-energized things.  

 

Now onto the “am I free?” part.  The fur fetish can definitely make like more complicated.  It it something you would be happy to be free of?  Personally I love my affinity for furs.  I am glad I can act on it and live it, rather than when I was a kid/teenager and not be able to do much.  The fact that my wife wears fur for me is like a dream come true.  Though I know one day the fur fetish will probably disappear as well as I get older.  The love of a spouse naturally will change our needs and therefore behaviour.  

 

Thanks for such an interesting take.  Cheers!