mr_bigfuzzy Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 I want to share a part of my life with you to get an answer: I have had a fur fetish since I was 16 years old. I have integrated this into my life and loved several women who accepted it (some not). We played in furs and had fun. I was married once, but the fetish was still strong and part of the partnership. I am now 54 years old and have met a new woman and the fur fetish seems to be ending. I have never been so in love with a woman and it is incredible how well we fit together mentally and otherwise. To be clear - I still have sexual interest, but it is about her, fur is no longer involved. First of all, I naturally came to a date in my fur jacket and we also had fun in my real fur blankets. During one of the declarations of love, she said (on her own) that she loved my fur coat. But it doesn't seem to be important to me anymore. When I have sexual feelings or thoughts, it is about her and there is no longer any fur involved. I thought that fur would stay in my life until the end. I looked in the literature and found out that this can happen. I am amazed and delighted because the fetish has sometimes made life complicated. It is not always appropriate to wear fur here and many women are vegan, extreme animal lovers... I wonder if anyone else has had this experience and if the fetish comes back after the initial phase of loving someone? Or am I "lucky" and free? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prowl Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 Whatever ends up happening, it's amazing that you found love! You are very lucky 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shyfurwriter Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 1 hour ago, mr_bigfuzzy said: I have never been so in love with a woman and it is incredible how well we fit together mentally and otherwise. I am so very happy for you!!!!!!! As for the Fetish and/ or love of fur , don't give it a thought, interest change. Just go with it ! Again, VERY HAPPY FOR YOU!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joel.leon Posted February 9 Share Posted February 9 It's not like it requires a final decision 🙂 enjoy it solo or with your partner when it feels good. It's all a spectrum and changes with time. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FullLengthFox Posted February 10 Share Posted February 10 Great to hear that you are happy! My thoughts: - Sexual interests may change and it is very well possible that your fetish returns one day. From experience I can say it is even more enjoyable when combined with a happy couple's life. - A fetish should not be limiting in any way, it is enriching so quite the opposite. But again: speaking from personal perspective, I know that the "old" definition of a fetish is a "must-need", but I don't believe this is still the case. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoyoteFox Posted February 11 Share Posted February 11 My fur fetish subsided from age 22-33... Maybe I was supressing it, but it didn't have the same effect on me... I got the same butterflies, but I wasn't actively engaged in acquiring and appreciating fur... It came back in the past six years and it was different from before... It's a more complementary force now in my life... I'm more comfortable with it and more comfortable with who I am as a person... I was lost in self-image, and worried that a fur fetish would be seen a certain way and take away from the persona I was trying to broadcast to the world... I'm at peace with my mind now (or at least winning the battle) and finding self-worth through honestly embracing the real things that complete me and make me whole... My love of fur now fits... But it's completely natural that it comes and goes... As it should! Watch out for when it comes back though... Might be expensive and 10x better! 🙂 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeComte Posted February 11 Share Posted February 11 Most important: Your girlfriend and you are happy. With or without a fetish. Anyway I somewhat accepted my fetish more and more and finally admitted that it's a part of me. It may be more or less intense, but I now enjoy it. Of course it is limiting sometimes, but on the other hand I get intense pleasure out of it. Yet I fully understand you, it's great to not judge every potential partner through the fur lens. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChicagoFurFan Posted February 11 Share Posted February 11 On 2/9/2025 at 12:06 PM, mr_bigfuzzy said: I want to share a part of my life with you to get an answer: I have had a fur fetish since I was 16 years old. I have integrated this into my life and loved several women who accepted it (some not). We played in furs and had fun. I was married once, but the fetish was still strong and part of the partnership. I am now 54 years old and have met a new woman and the fur fetish seems to be ending. I have never been so in love with a woman and it is incredible how well we fit together mentally and otherwise. To be clear - I still have sexual interest, but it is about her, fur is no longer involved. First of all, I naturally came to a date in my fur jacket and we also had fun in my real fur blankets. During one of the declarations of love, she said (on her own) that she loved my fur coat. But it doesn't seem to be important to me anymore. When I have sexual feelings or thoughts, it is about her and there is no longer any fur involved. I thought that fur would stay in my life until the end. I looked in the literature and found out that this can happen. I am amazed and delighted because the fetish has sometimes made life complicated. It is not always appropriate to wear fur here and many women are vegan, extreme animal lovers... I wonder if anyone else has had this experience and if the fetish comes back after the initial phase of loving someone? Or am I "lucky" and free? It sounds like you’ve found true love — the type that transcends the lustful and short term gratification-esque nature of fetishism. I’m sure you’ll still enjoy fur, I mean, fetish or not, it’s sexy and a universal sign of luxury, but now you’ve found something far more permanent and joyful. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
syfr Posted February 11 Share Posted February 11 Thanks for sharing your story about changing and evolving. An interesting perspective. We are unique individuals. It is fun to indulge in your fetish for sure, but I think a lot can be said about practicing moderation and not becoming overly obsessed, as it can sometimes negatively impact one's life. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinnipegFur Posted Monday at 08:54 PM Share Posted Monday at 08:54 PM Congrats on finding someone you can really love and be comfortable with... Fur or no fur, its important you are happy! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FoxFurStory_35 Posted Wednesday at 11:48 AM Share Posted Wednesday at 11:48 AM Very interesting thread! It’s amazing here and I’m getting ready for work. I’ll respond later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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