So, Who Would Like To See A Fetish Forum?

[FrBrGr]

Your eyes aren't deceiving you. You read it right. Who among you, dear Denizens, would like to see a true fur fetish forum on the internet? In case you haven't noticed, The Fur Den, which, in the "old days," used to be a fur fetish forum, has little - but very little - to do with the fur fetish in its most recent incarnation. Several of us would like to be involved in one. Now, before you read anything into this, let me make one thing perfectly clear - This in no way is a reflection of my belief that The Fur Den is the best website of its kind on the internet, and the establishment of any fur fetish forum anywhere will not take anything away from this website. In fact, it will only serve to enhance it!

 

One of the strengths of The Fur Den today is that it has attracted a widely diverse audience, and our membership includes some really great people who would probably not be a member of this site if it was totally dedicated to the fur fetish. It isn't. Look up at the top of this page and you will see, "The Fur Den - The website totally dedicated to the appreciation of fur." Many, if not most, of you love fur as a fashion, and even though you can appreciate the "magical sensuality" of fur, it doesn't do anything for your sexual life. That's where you're different from the fur fetishist, and if this website gave you a steady diet of the fetish, you probably wouldn't be here. That's all well and good for you, but it doesn't do anything for those of us who like it the other way, too . . . (!)

 

So - Back to the original point. Who wants to see a fur fetish forum on the internet? Either PM or email me, wallee, FurLoverinFL or Worker 11811 and tell us a little (no long, intimate confessions, please - !) about why you would like to be a part of a fur fetish forum, and when the forum is up and running, we'll let you know more.

 

I'd also like to hear some of your thoughts as responses to this post.

 

Thanx!

Edited July 14, 2007 by Guest

[Worker 11811]

If this site was totally dedicated to fetish, I would not be here. However, I would like to have a place where I could go to talk about fetish things and I wouldn't have to feel self-conscious about it.

 

People who want to send e-mails to me, instead of PMs, can do so at the address below:

 

(The picture prevents spam-bots from harvesting my e-mail address.)

[wallee]

Couldn't find a bigger one?

 

Or they can just click the "email" button at the bottom of our posts.

[Worker 11811]

Yeah, I know but it's kind of like handing out a business card.

Besides, I like that picture.

[Guest]

Its a great picture indeed!

 

If it was purely fetish oriented I wouldn't be here either.

 

BUT I absolutely want to see a seperate area of fetish talk.

 

May I also add that when we talk about this we may mean different things....for some of us fur is the raison d'etre as far as the fetish is concerned and for others its a sensual aid, or decor on a woman, or a tool to enhance a woman's power and confidence, to a greater or lesser extent, in love making.

But I think as long as we have a place to discuss , sometimes explicitly, give one another tips techniques and graphic or just beautiful accounts of love making, then that would be a good idea ; away from prying eyes.

A kind of ahem gentleman's club also open to ladies; all of us bound by the utmost discretion; for let us say more open exchange ?

[MadisonAvenueFurPrincess]

I hope I'm not opening another can of worms with what I am about to say, but I guess I am going to give my two cents. I am not particually attracted to Men who wear Fur Coats that are styled for the girls, it is not masculine to me, nor am I attracted to men masturbating with fur and that is what the HARDCORE FETISH sites seem to represent. To my Boys out there, I understand many of you are on the Fetish end of the spectrum. I won't lie fur has "touched kitty" before so I can understand the appeal. One reason I avoid some of The Fur Den's competitors is they tend to be accepting of some things in the Fetish realm I'd rather not see. I am really not to keen about Pornography anymore, I guess I am turning into a Prude in my old age.

[furnation]

Not a can of worms but just a point of honor MAFP. Not all of us guys are interested in wearing the ladys' furs but just enjoying them. You understand. I personally don't find guys wearing fur a turn-on either, but to each his own.

[Worker 11811]

A lot of people have such a one dimensional understanding of the word "fetish".

 

They tend to think that, if you admit to having a fetish that you are into all sorts of extreme, kinky stuff. That is usually FAR from the real truth. Further, if you admit to liking a certain thing you are automatically assumed to have a fetish for it. Then, of course, you are pinned with all sorts of extreme, kinky labels.

 

I get turned on by women wearing fur and doing other things in and with fur. (I play for the Blue Team.) But neither does that mean that I have to have fur every time I get excited nor does it mean I get excited every time I see fur.

 

Having a place to talk where other people understand that would be a good thing.

 

There are other people who frequent another site that is more sexually oriented than the Den is. I enjoy going to that site, on occasion, too. But my love of fur is not simply the need to satisfy a physical urge. If they want to go to a site that is all about naughty stuff and little else, that's okay by me.

 

I just want a place where I can talk about more than just the things I do with fur when I want to have sex.

[chatoo]

bring on the fetish forum. nothing gross like the old NTC site; something with class, like this site has always been.

[White Fox]

Great to hear from you Chatoo. Are there no others here who want a fetish forum somewhere? I thought that there would be a lot of people! Are we to take it that everyone else is "Fashion" oriented?

 

W

[MadisonAvenueFurPrincess]

bring on the fetish forum. nothing gross like the old NTC site; something with class, like this site has always been.

 

My sentiments exactly!

[Velvet_Tigress]

I can't believe I didn't see this topic sneak up, though I will blame it's high heights for not posting sooner.

 

I have been goofing around on the internet for quite some time, and for a good part of it I have been lurking around the various fur related boards, not talking so much as watching what other people had to say, show all of the rest of us, and just basically go off about.

 

I had an account in the old NTC boards for awhile, and I really didn't think much of it. The account I ran under my own name got swamped with PMs and I never really felt like I was a part of a group there. Eventually I just quit going there, and a bit after that it went belly-up.

 

From there I went to Melody's where we again ran into our share of trials, tribulations, and misunderstandings and then I ended up here.

 

Where am I going with all this? This is a post about fetish forums, right?

 

What would you think if there was a board that was as polite as the gents are here at the Fur Den that still allowed you to talk about things that you found to be sexy, or how much you like to feel fur on you?

 

I KNOW that you're not looking for guys with her hands on their manhood on a fur coat videos every which way but down, or leering 'one post' guys coming in to say something disgusting before never posting again.

 

The fur forum that I see is a place where a person can come in and really talk about why they love furs, maybe post a few fantasies once in awhile, and have somewhere to go where they don't feel out of place.

 

I LOVE the Fur Den, don't get me wrong, but sometimes I wish that places were a bit more private when I want to talk about stuff that I don't have a strong desire to for John Q. Public to read at will.

 

Besides that, it's somewhat hard to really find a place to write down more than a few vague thoughts about why I think a model is attractive if I find one of them pretty (and admittedly I do!) or to work out ideas that do not find themselves really fitting where all the fashion is involved.

 

Don't get me wrong, I LIKE the fashion, but I LOVE the furs!

 

What do you all think? I personally think that White Fox has a really good idea that is going to need a lot more input to work or not, and that if there are people who are willing to step up to the bat and help to make this sort of forum come to life, it would be another place for those of us who like to be in furs and on them to get together and talk a bit.

 

And let's face it, with the nice people here behind it (This means you BrGr and Worker and White and I'll sneak TOS in there somewhere and all you folks I'm missing) this board could really get going.

 

With the Fur Den members behind it, I very much doubt it would turn into a Raunchfest.

 

SPEAK UP everybody! What do want? A Fur Fetish Forum! When are we going to get it? When you start complaining to FrBrGr to make one to the high standards of the rest of the other wonderful forum boards!

 

I know more than the Usual Suspects like to be naked on fur, so step up!

 

I'll be quiet now.

 

Kate

[lynxette]

Wow, interesting thread. I have been a bit confused shall we say about my feelings about furs for some time. When I am wearing a fur coat I feel a much heightened sense of my femininity, and this I enjoy very much. And yes, fur can under the right circumstances be very erotic as well, but not always. Add to this the fact that I love to see a man in a fur coat because I think it heightens his masculinity. This is the confusing bit...how can something that I personally associate as being very soft and feminine have the exact opposite impact on the opposite sex? I suppose I prefer a man to wear a man's coat as opposed to a woman's, but I am not too judgmental on this either.

I realise that some of the above may seem off topic, but it is really a response to some of the previous comments. I am in favour of such a corner of our own site here, so that quality control may be maintained as per examples above.

Edited May 31, 2007 by Guest

[Guest]

Inded Kate; indeed Madison, Lynxette.

 

Traditonally; one things of the upper classes* as gentile, prudish, and the plebians imagine them to be stuck up, and shocked by anything rude.

Such small minds; such little imagination.

 

The veneer exist PURELY to protect the reputations of ladies .

 

Most Southern Charms women do not know what sex is. They float belly up on the surface of a festering stagnant pond sunning themselves in the filthy algae for the simple minded. And the male creatures of this filthy swamp croak and wriggle in the mud at the bloated pond life ; scabbed from the sun baked nakedness they see in these shallows.

 

They know not the depths of debauchery, depravity and beauty in the cool deep still waters and myriads of coral crusted caves beneath; some of which lead to open sea and islands of solitude and unimagineable wealth.

But we must protect that beautiful world, and speak not of our adventures in it in front of those who come here merely to excite themselves but for an instant in crude fashion. Especially, if with us swim true ladies.

 

A few months ago something incredible happened to me and another member here. I said to him afterwards; Wow if only the people in the fur forums knew"

 

"Speak not of this on any forums" he said "less we compromise the reputations of the ladies concerned".

And for this; we do indeed need a private members club; not one in which people pay for poor fayre; indeed....not one which your money can buy you in or any such vulgarity; but rather one in which the invited and trustworthy are able to relax in the comfort to which they deserve; discretion utterly assured.

 

Not in an eletist fashion you understand; but one in which membership binds us to a code of ethics and trust.

 

The problem being; there are probabaly many many visitors here who are gentile and discreet; so much so that they rarely post.

Hw do we know then; if you are to deserve such priviliged membership? This is a problem. In some forums where there are higher echelons of access; money or number of posts guarantee access. Unfortunately; this is alike allowing Hugo Boss suited footballers into a smart club and yet leaving out a gentile or cultured member because he may be unsuitably dressed.

The best door management I evr cam across was an Alternative club on Tottenham Court Rd. The door mamnager ws a model, who used to sit in tight leather pants with a low slunf blet and a huge Davy Crockett fox fur hat with tail. She was flanked by two bouncers; but they had no say in the membership or guest admissions. Only she decided who entered; and money and dress were not guarantee. Women have a sense for this I think.

 

Maybe we should have an "application zone" where members who would like admission forward their application which must be reviewed by a panel with female members. Biography, some personal details, and some kind of pledge of discretion should perhaps accompany the letter of application; or else by referral. I know one or two very very quiet members for example who would be absolutely fine upstanding members of the "inner circle" .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

* not that I am upper class; I just believe they have it right.

[E]

/raise hand

 

oh, and I'm not new

[ReFur]

Oh my goodness!! The guys are going to be so jealous of your avatar E!

 

L

[Guest]

wow E welcome whoever you are. I hope it is you in the avatar!

[wallee]

No luck ToS.

 

She's an actress, used to be in a show called Party of Five.

 

Paula Devicq

http://www.icpin.com/device.shtml

[Guest]

Lol well I would bet odds on she has popped her head in her at least on the evidence of her....er....commitment in that pic lol!

 

So anyway E welcome to the den.

[furlickle]

Without getting tied up over definitions of what does and doesn't constitute a fetish, I'd be interested to see a forum that's a little more open to the erotic dimensions of seeing, wearing and feeling fur. In some ways it seems the erotic dimension can be like an unacknowledged electric current buzzing below the surface of some of the discussions here.

[icepilot]

With the Fur Den members behind it, I very much doubt it would turn into a Raunchfest.

 

bring on the fetish forum. nothing gross like the old NTC site; something with class, like this site has always been.

 

This is a great topic...but I am a little confused about the location of the proposed forum. Are we talking about a separate forum within the fur den or another site altogether?

 

I think the way to keep the workload down, but more importantly to address the raunchfest concerns is to simply make another forum within the fur den. We can all stay together and still have a private place to discuss the fetish end. I would be active in both areas.

[GHOSTFUR]

I for one am all for it...I cannot think of fur and women without some erotic thoughts in my head.......i mean if see a good looking woman in fur and how can you NOT have some of those thoughts and even ,,,desires??

I have even been lucky enough to include the wife on a few of those thoughts... not as often as i would like though but i take it when i can...women,sex and fur.....a very sensual combination.....

[White Fox]

Yes, we are making progress on it. If you want to get in on the ground floor of that new site just give one of our mods a pm if you do not hear from them shortly and they will give you the info on it. Don't be bashful anyone. If you want to see the site, absolutely NO ONE will know that you have asked to join. The fact that you ask is 100% secret and safe with us.

 

W

[Guest]

Yes; we are talking about the possibility of a private forum within the den for trusted/by invitation members.

 

The only problm is; how do we learn to trust some of the quieter members?

 

Prblem is, we have real ladies here; and thy have expressed an interst BUT are reluctant to talk in fornt of public.

 

So can nayone come up with a way of incorporating long standing but silent or quiet members?

 

We don't want the type that are going to pm disgusting remarks to the ladies etc for obvious reasons. BUT merely being a longstanding member tells us nothing; or even prolific posters...they may misbehave too.

 

So it is a difficult one.

 

Personally I favour a letter of application by pm to a panel to approve entry as a member of the club.

 

For example. to join some yahoo grouups you have to give quite a few personal details including a non hotmail email adress; and reasons why you want to join; and something about yourself that ggives some evidence of your trustworthiness....a a reference, some record of good behaviour and true interest etc.

[MadisonAvenueFurPrincess]

Make 25 Posts an evaluating point, anyone with less than that probably is here for Links, Photos or Curiousity. If within the 25 posts there is legitimate questionable behavior or conduct after the Moderators have evaluated a members character, tact, or reason for being here DENY THEM ACCESS! I think this is fair. If a Fur Fetish Forum is established have STERN guidelines to what is unacceptable behavior ,up to deleting a members FULL ACCOUNT at The Fur Den.