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blackwillo

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We now know what happened to toepick...her husband died. I'm assuming her daughter, one of the fur models, was listing the GPS nav system...

 

RIP john doe.

 

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Well I for one say to Toepick, if she reads this, our sincerest condolences from all here. May you recover from a terrible event.

 

Auzmink

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It was her mother's husband who died--NOT her husband. (read that item description carefully to see this).

 

But yes, we do miss her furs, don't we?

 

Here's to an outstanding season!

 

Firstfur

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Firstfur, - granted that description, but I took it to mean Toepicks daughter was selling the SatNav and it was her father who passed away! Anyhow, enough said, still not a nice time. Lets hope she returns with some furs - I still own one of hers, it is lovely

 

Auzmink

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Hmm! This calls up some important issues of mine.

 

On the one hand, I suspect that one reason people crop their faces or blur them out is simply that they feel creeped out by the possibility of being stalked or ogled. Unless it were a picture of someone I know intimately and she and I have an agreement about it, I sould want my viewing of pictures of ladies in furs to be about the stimulation the fur itself gives me, not about fantasizing about being with the stranger in the picture. But I'm not always sure this is the case. There've been a number of pictures I decided weren't appropriate for me simply because it seemed my fantasizing was at least partly about vulnerability I saw or imagined in the stranger in the picture.

 

If we want people to feel safe posting pictures of themselves wearing furs and showing their faces, I believe we do best to try to avoid objectifying them. That means being sensitive to the possibility they might feel creeped out by how we look at such photos.

 

I feel a bit of confusion about some of the posts on this thread. On the one hand, I hear empathy for a loss in the family of a favorite vendor. On the other hand, I wonder if part of it's about gossip. Some of us might know that vendor well enough. But as for me, digging into her family affairs wouldn't be appropriate.

 

I'm sharing what's on my heart about this. It applies to me, and I'm not intending to judge anyone else here.

 

Thank you!

 

frugalfurguy

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frugalfurguy wrote...

 

On the one hand, I suspect that one reason people crop their faces or blur them out is simply that they feel creeped out by the possibility of being stalked or ogled.

 

Maybe I'm just a little too paranoid, but perhaps there's something even more sinister. Perhaps folks are simply concerned with some photoshopping their likeness into pornogaphy or other compromising photos. Think of the embarrassment that can cause amongst family, friends and coworkers...

 

FLinFL

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Yes, FLinFL, that would be another way we could treat folks as objects and definitely counter to the spirit of fostering confidence to post pix that show the person.

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In some cases yes... now I'm sure someone can prove me wrong, but I don't remember anyone really 'bad-mouthing' any of the women who've posed in furs on eBay... at least compared to some of the reactions generated by some women posing on the Southern Charms site.

 

FLinFL

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Thanks, Linda. You remind me that after all I can't figure out why everybody acts the way they do (sometimes have a hard enough time even explaining my own motivations). I can wonder about it--that's one way to move myself closer to being willing to see things from someone else's perspective.

 

That whole comparison thing you mention. Yeah, I've been part of that, but I'm not proud of it, and I want to show more respect than that. The impulse to rankorder women's appearance seems to me now sort of like treating them as so many pumpkins lined up at a county fair. The pumpkins in that situation aren't being viewed as each having their individual purpose and destiny but as objects to fulfill certain human desires.

 

If a lady's shy about entering such a contest, that's certainly understandable. If she's mad as hell and not going to take it any more, I'm asking is there a way I can be supportive. If she doesn't care what other people say or think, I congratulate her.

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  • 4 weeks later...

Say, great to see you here again lorantlo,,,

 

Also, Fl, we need to remember that there are some pretty good looking women on the S/C site too. Brandy for instance to name one that is visiting us right now.

 

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