awkward and enlightening

[Guest]

One of my fur experiences was awkward but enlightening and I think it's time for me to share. I am a straight male who was always afraid of being associated with any thing gay. I don't discriminate against it but I don't want any part of it. Then one winters day I was working when two men came in wearing furs. They were regulars and we all knew they were partners but this was the first time I seen them in furs. I felt so uncomfortable because there coats aroused me. "Mike" wore a full length coyote and "Jim" was wearing full length beaver. To make a long story short they figured out I was a straight male turned on by fur. They were so nice to me!! Jim said" feel my coat sweetheart all you straights love the feel of beaver! He made me chuckle. After that ice breaker they extended there arms. When I touched there furs Mike said that's no way to feel a fur. With tongue in cheek style he stroked my face with his arm. Jim said "oh yeah this boy is hot for fur" This only took a few moments to transpire but It changed me. They did not mock me, they did not take my feelings as seriously as I did and we had fun. Ever since that day I want to be more like them. Tolerant ,fun , compassionate and not judge people.

Edited July 12, 2008 by Guest

[fur999]

Ever since that day I want to be more like them. Tolerant ,fun , compassionate and not judge people.

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Good on you, the world would be a better place if everyone was more tolerant, fun and compassionate.

999 xxx

[FurLoverinFL]

Ahem!!!!!

 

FLinFL

[Worker 11811]

Thank you for sharing!

 

When I was growing up I was in an atmosphere where there were a lot of predatory people. I think the main reason I am uncomfortable with gay people is that I learned to perceive them as sexually predatory from a young age. As I grew up, I no longer had to worry about predators but the old lessons I learned stayed with me. I think the main reason I am uncomfortable is because of the uneasiness I feel when I have to walk that proverbial tightrope between tolerance and self-preservation.

 

If I was in your place I probably would have run for the hills! I would have felt trapped in a double bind between enjoying the fur and staying on guard against predatory people!

 

It's good to hear that you were able to pull through a situation like this. Next time, if I ever find myself in similar circumstances, I'll try to remember your story and take a lesson from it.

 

[Guest]

It's interesting how people's experiences are so different.

 

I grew up in the South and homosexuality was not socially acceptable but quite common and tolerated.

 

I was aware of this at a rather early age. It never was an issue for me then or when I was in the Design college where many were my friends (not lovers).

 

Having been deeply attracted to fur at a very early age I not once associated fur and homosexuality.

 

Alternately, I have always had the highest regard for those I have known as friends.

 

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[Worker 11811]

I do not mean to say that enjoying fur is necessarily a homosexual thing.

 

I am saying that, in my past, predatory people would have used fur as a tool to take advantage of others. (Me.) Being tempted to enjoy fur in the presence of another would have been perceived as a way to get me to lower my guard.

 

I'm not saying that this is how things really are. I'm just saying that, because of things that happened in the past, I have learned to be suspicious of those who act like that.

In some cases, rightfully so but in most, it is not fair to say that.

[cbernard92]

haha that sounds so amazing, I wish something like that would happen to me!!

[JGalanos]

Interesting story. Thanks fur sharing.

[frugalfurguy]

I've always been extremely wary about revealing my thing with furs. After some distasteful instances when I outed myself, I've tended to wait until I know somebody pretty well or in the relative safety of confidential and anonymous support groups.

 

If men want to wear furs, that's their choice. However, it doesn't arouse me like a woman wearing furs would. That's really my clearest indicator of my orientation. At the same time, I've progressed a long way from the homophobic community I grew up in. I definitely value the gay and lesbian people who've contributed so much in my life. As someone who's worked through some sexual repression, I believe I have a basis for identifying with experiences many homosexuals go through in relating to their sexuality that'd be unusual for a straight man.

 

At the same time, I still have plenty of control issues. Letting someone get close enough to caress me with a fur their wearing, be they man or woman, would require more than my usual amount of trust.

 

I want to continue gaining in my willingness to accept the way people are, to relate to myself and others with humor and compassion. So thanks for sharing the story, Tom4

 

frugalfurguy

[brandy-uk]

Thanks for sharing the story and it is great to read what 'other' denizens feel about the situation and their own feelings on the gay issue..

 

I think the predatory feeling of the gay community is something that has been expanded through the stereotypical portrayal of the media...often in films and tv programmes..gay men are seen to only be predatory and out spoken.. I wonder how many times we have been sat in our furs next to a gay man or gay woman or even bi-sexual people..and they have admired our furs and 'us' and have chosen to 'not' say something..!

 

probably far more often than we think...

 

kisses

brandy

xxxxx

[foxkid]

What does this say about fur wearers ... We're some of the nicest and most tolerant / open minded people in society